Celebrating the Beautiful Messiness of Motherhood
Happy Mother's Day to everyone, especially to those who are trying to become a mother. I see you, and I understand.
When I think of mothers, I don't only think about biological mothers. What about the mother-like figures who have guided us along the way? I think of my Aunt Elaine, a Stanford-trained MD now in her 80s, who instilled in me a sex-positive attitude emerging from her own late 1960's coming of age, and also my Auntie Sherry, a psychologist and influential spiritual teacher now 82, who had a call-in show in Toronto decades before shows like that were popular and who I was lucky to see this weekend.
Our biological mothers and mother-like figures shape us in many ways, sometimes even showing us ways of being that we use as signposts, only to do the opposite carving out our own paths.
I am a mother myself, of four children, and for the past 24 years, the architecture of my being has been defined by them. My stepsons, ages 31 and 29, have been my companions in life. I was just 26 when I got them, practically a kid myself. They call me MomCat, and their hearts are so capacious—they accepted me from the start and they bring me unparalleled joy—although I have blocked out some of those teenaged years: thank God.
My biological children, ages 20 and 17, are my obsession. I'm embarrassed to say that letting them fly out into the world brings excitement and occasional terror; it is a constant struggle to let go.
No matter if you are a biological mother or a mother figure, you know your worth. And this can be the hardest job!
Wishing you a marvelous day! Celebrate and soak up all the appreciation and love that today brings—and enjoy every moment because likely it will expire by midnight.
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As women navigating perimenopause and beyond, self-care isn't just a luxury—it's essential medicine. In my latest blog post, I'm sharing practices that go beyond the typical "bubble bath and chocolate" advice (though those are lovely too!).
From the surprising healing power of a good cry to reconnecting with old friends who knew you "when," these practices honor both your physical and emotional needs during times of transition.
Finding yourself a good healer. As I write in the post: "While I serve as that person for many of my clients, I also have my own healer who untangles my energy and keeps me vibrant. Making those appointments every other week is non-negotiable for me. God bless that woman!"
What small act of love can you offer yourself today, especially if you're a mother who gives so much to others? Remember, self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary. When we nurture ourselves, we have so much more to give to those around us.
Yes, you can prioritize yourself without guilt!
Read the full guide here →