Dear Reader,
As we bid farewell to 2024, I find myself reflecting on the power of intentionality and the true meaning of resolutions. It’s been a year of growth, challenges, and unexpected revelations, both in my practice and personal life. I’d like to share some thoughts with you as we step into a new year.
The Surprising Etymology of “Resolution”
Recently, I’ve been pondering the word “resolution,” and its origins are quite fascinating. The term comes from the Latin “resolvere,” meaning “to loosen or release”. Isn’t that interesting? Instead of tightening our grip on new habits or goals, the etymology suggests a process of loosening, of breaking things down into simpler forms.
This revelation has shifted my perspective on New Year’s resolutions. Rather than focusing solely on what I want to do or achieve, I’m now considering what I need to let go of and how I want to be in the world.
Intentionality: A New Approach to Resolutions
As I reflect on the 8,760 hours that we are gifted every year, I’m struck by the importance of intentionality. Each morning, I want to consider the qualities I wish to embody and share with the world - softness, beauty, thoughtfulness, connectedness. It’s about creating a ripple effect, where the energy we put out is reflected back to us, like a smile that prompts another in return.
Challenging Self-Limiting Beliefs
This year has been about becoming aware of the beliefs I hold about myself, many of which may not be true but have become deeply ingrained over decades. You know those pesky thoughts like “I’m always late” or “I’m not likable”? Yeah, those. I’ve realized how these self-limiting beliefs shape our perception of the world and our place in it.
The Long View: Living Without Regrets
At 78, will I look back with regrets? This question has been a powerful motivator for me. I don’t want to end up in a position where I lack the cognition, physical health, or relationships to do the things I love. It’s about making choices now that my future self will thank me for.
Practical Steps for Growth
- Stop wearing the metaphorical “jewelry” of past hurts: It’s time to let go of damaged relationships and unhealthy family dynamics.
- Commit to healing: This might mean exploring different types of therapy, including somatic work to release tension stored in the body.
- Redirect toxic thought patterns: Recognize that external circumstances aren’t the problem - it’s how we process and react to them.
A Gentle Approach to Goal-Setting
While I appreciate the structure of annual goal-setting, I’m also exploring a more intuitive approach. Incorporating lunar cycles - setting intentions with the new moon and revisiting them during the full moon - feels like a gentler, more natural rhythm.
Final Thoughts
As we enter 2025, I invite you to join me in this journey of intentional living. Let’s focus not just on what we want to achieve, but on who we want to be. Remember, avoiding triggers doesn’t mean the underlying issues are gone - they’re just dormant. The work to heal and grow is ongoing, but it’s so worth it.
Here’s to a year of loosening what no longer serves us, embracing our true selves, and living with intention.
Wishing you health, happiness, and empowerment in the coming year.
Warmly,
Dr. Catherine
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