Maybe it's not personal
As I sit here on this beautiful spring day, observing the hellebores outside my window, I can't help but reflect on how our perspective shapes our experience. So often, when something feels personal—a missed call, a perceived slight, an unexpected reaction—we internalize it as a reflection of our worth. But what if it's not about us at all?
Today, I want to explore how shifting our perspective can transform our relationships and bring a profound sense of peace—especially as we navigate the complex terrain of life.
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This week's inspiration: Maybe It's Not Personal
Latest blog post: Pro-Aging Skincare Guide: Keeping Maturing Skin Happy and Healthy
What I'm listening to: The Science of Creatine (and why it matters for women!)
Maybe It's Not Personal
Have you ever found yourself hurt by someone's actions and immediately assumed it was a reflection on you? I've been pondering this tendency lately—how easy it is for my ego to feel bruised when things don't go as expected in relationships.
The 10% Rule
In a recent conversation with my husband, I wondered aloud: of all the times we feel hurt or slighted, what percentage is actually personally directed at us? My guess? About 10%—though when my feelings are hurt, it feels terrible 100% of the time.
The truth is, most people are wrapped up in their own stories, challenges, and insecurities. That friend who didn't return your call? She might be drowning in work stress. The neighbor who seemed cold? Perhaps dealing with health concerns you know nothing about.
A Season of Renewal
As the spring winds arrive, they offer us a beautiful opportunity to let go of old tendencies. Just as the crocuses and daffodils find strength to bloom even in challenging conditions, we too can find the fortitude to grow through our discomforts.
My intention this week is to give grace—both to others and to myself—and to be less reactive. When things don't go my way, I'm choosing to remember that it's rarely a personal shortcoming.
This perspective feels especially relevant for us women navigating perimenopause and menopause. When hormonal shifts amplify our emotional responses, this simple practice of assuming good intentions can be truly transformative.
Yes, you can choose a perspective that brings you peace rather than pain!
Latest blog post
My Pro-Aging Skincare Guide
The truth about skincare is refreshingly simple: you don't need to break the bank or follow complicated routines to nurture your aging skin.
In my latest blog post, I'm shifting our focus from "anti-aging" (which implies fighting against a natural process) to "pro-aging"—embracing longevity and skin health.
Here's a glimpse of what you'll discover:
Why simplicity is your skin's best friend (hint: less is often more when it comes to washing your face!)
The essentials every woman should know about sun protection (your future self will thank you!)
How lifestyle habits—like quality sleep and nourishing foods—dramatically impact your skin's appearance
Practical solutions for addressing specific concerns like dark spots, wrinkles, and dullness
My personal, non-toxic approach to addressing skin laxity and crepiness
Remember, true skin health starts from within. The goal isn't to look 21 forever—it's to help your skin look and feel its healthiest at every stage of life. This approach not only enhances your appearance but contributes to your overall well-being.
What I'm Listening To
The Science of Creatine with Dr. Rhonda Patrick & Dr. Darren Candow
I was fascinated by this recent podcast about creatine—a supplement that's often associated with male bodybuilders but has surprising benefits for women too, especially as we age!
Why You Should Care About Creatine
Did you know that creatine isn't just for muscle enhancement? The research reveals significant benefits for:
Bone health: Particularly important for post-menopausal women concerned about bone density
Brain function: Improving cognitive performance, especially during times of stress or fatigue
Sleep quality: Research shows it may enhance sleep duration after training sessions
What surprised me most was learning that creatine is predominantly found in animal foods (meat, poultry, fish), which means those of us following plant-focused diets may be especially low in this compound. Our bodies produce some creatine naturally, but supplementation appears to offer additional benefits that go far beyond the gym.
As women navigating perimenopause and menopause, anything that supports our bone health, cognitive function, and muscle maintenance deserves our attention!
I'm already exploring incorporating a modest 5-10g daily dose into my routine. Have you tried creatine supplementation? I'd love to hear your experience!
Listen to the full podcast here →
I’m cheering for you. Have a wonderful week!
Dr. Cat 🥰
Dr. Catherine Wellness
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